Parents need to monitor all exposure to violence from games to movies
Re Dec. 15 AP article, “Sheer terror”: Will it ever end? It is beyond belief and so extremely sad that these poor families have to deal with the needless deaths of their children, wives and loved ones because of one man’s actions in Connecticut.
How can this happen? What can we do to stop it? I am afraid that it may only get worse. Think back to the 1950s, ’60s and early ’70s. The perception of what was bad was so different than it is now. I thought that putting a tack on the teacher’s chair was worthy of jail time! But my environment was different than it is now.
I didn’t have movies that depicted death as a sport, language that even sailors never used, and themes of destruction, disobedience and lack of any type of judgment. I didn’t have a personal computer to fill my head with things that only mentally sick people would keep to themselves! I didn’t listen to music that taught us to kill was right and to beat women and think of them as just objects was good. Have you ever listened to the words of today’s music?
Parents, what are you exposing your children to from an early age and then just ignoring when they get older cause you want to be cool? Who do our children idolize? It should be those teachers who gave their lives for their students, and the first responders. What are we progressing to? Are we better because of all our rhetoric about being ourselves. as long as it feels right?
Now that we have taken God out of everything, see how much better off we are, and you wonder why we are where we are. Perhaps Adam [Lanza] did have a mental problem which was only made worse by all the garbage that exists in our world today. We are a country in decline, morally and in every way possible. This is what you wanted, well, now you have it; not so great, is it? What will it take before we all realize that we are on the wrong path?
Parents, do your children a favor and get rid of all the filth that is out there every day in every way and in every place.
Mental health: Laws prevent loved ones from getting help
I read with interest the Dec. 18 letter from Mary Baker. Even though I live in a household where guns are present (hunting rifles), I agree that there are some changes that need to be made to our laws in that regard.
However, I vehemently disagree with Ms. Baker’s comments about “loved ones turn a blind eye,” and “People are still embarrassed to admit they, or a loved one, needs mental health treatment!”
Has she ever tried to get a loved one with mental illness some help? It’s not easy. Part of mental illness is a lack of insight into the fact that the person is ill at all. They aren’t embarrassed by it — they don’t see it. If they don’t think anything is wrong with them, do you think it’s easy to convince them to get help?
Even if you get them to go to an emergency room or visit a doctor, they are not forced to stay for treatment. In order for them to be forced to stay, they need to represent an imminent danger to self or others. That means vague mention of suicide is not enough. The mention of voices or seeing people following you is not enough, as long as those voices aren’t telling you to kill someone. Most times, forcing someone to seek treatment means that person has reached the breaking point and is already out of control.
I have met some wonderful people in support groups for families of mentally ill loved ones. They go there to share their stories, their fears, their concerns, and their love for their family member. They are not embarrassed or turning a blind eye. They are trying to find ways within the current laws to help their loved ones to the best of their ability.
Yes, our society does stigmatize the mentally ill, and we need to take steps to change that. Berating families for “turning a blind eye” or being “embarrassed” about their loved one’s illness is not a step in the right direction.