Americans like their Brits to be snobs, rich and veddy, veddy proper — or at least they like their PBS British costume dramas that way.
“Downton Abbey” has been delivering the goods for two seasons. For ardent fans of the Emmy Award-winning drama, the wait for season 3 is almost over. The series resumes Sunday.
The new season has been airing in the U.K. since September, so desperate American fans could find spoilers on the Internet. But who wants to sacrifice the fun of watching Shirley MacLaine and Maggie Smith face off? Or to forgo the magic of Matthew and Lady Mary Crawley’s wedding set against the backdrop of the biggest character in the show, Downton Abbey itself, also known as Highclere Castle in Hampshire, England?
Like the last huge PBS success teeming with great rooms and the vagaries of the British class system — “Brideshead Revisited” in 1982 — “Downton Abbey” features a magnificent house that influences the destinies of every character. Their roles, aristocrat or servant, are played out in the rooms where they live — “upstairs“ boudoirs and opulent sitting rooms or “downstairs” scullery, pantries and starkly furnished bedrooms.
Habitation determines the clothes they wear as well: velvet evening gown and serious diamonds or crisp white shirt and simple black uniform.
Top 10 table manners
Even if you don’t have a “Downton Abbey” watch party, keep proper etiquette in mind. Cathy Corey has taught manners for more than 19 years through the National League of Junior Cotillions.
-- Never begin the meal until everyone has been served; the hostess will be the first to begin eating.
-- Dinner rolls are to be broken in half; then a bite-size piece is again broken off, buttered and eaten. Your knife should never touch the bread, except to add the butter.
-- The resting position of your utensils is across the top of the plate — do not “build a bridge” by resting knives or forks on the lip of the plate and then leaning them on the table.
-- Once a utensil has been used, it is never placed back on the linens. It must rest on plates or saucers.
-- Your drinking glasses are always positioned near the top of your dinner knife. Even if left-handed, the glass should be placed to the right after every sip.
-- The dinner napkin is folded into a rectangle, resting on your lap with the fold toward your stomach. It is never tucked into one’s collar, unless eating lobster.
-- The salt and pepper shakers are always passed together, even if the request to pass was for only one of them.
-- The gentlemen should always rise when a lady approaches or leaves the table.
-- One always passes to the right with one’s left hand (crossing over the front of your body), to shorten the range of motion. The person accepting the pass takes it in the right hand, then changes to the left hand when passing.
-- When finished eating, one should place the used napkin to the left of the place setting.
Tried and true
As viewers, it is hard not to want a bit of the glamour of the aristocrats and the drama of the servants to rub off on us. We may hanker for a change from the relentlessly casual style of America, where entertaining often means little more than a flaming fire pit on the patio and plenty of craft beer on hand (not that that isn’t fun, too).
American fans will be able to imitate this marvelously styled fantasy of British life when a company called Knockout Licensing launches multiple brands that seek to replicate the look of “Downton” in North America: bedding and bath, home furnishings and decor, housewares, kitchenware and apparel.
Who knows what Knockout will offer? Perhaps replicas of hunting prints, worn Oriental rugs, faded cabbage-rose chintzes, Staffordshire dogs, Blue Willow china and leather-bound books — the tried-and-true elements of English country house design.
These details can be lovely, even in an American house with a two-door garage and the total square footage of the drawing room and dining room of a real country house in the British Isles.
Meanwhile, why not incorporate a touch of “Downton’s” elegance into your 21st century life? Plan a dinner party that takes the formality quotient up a notch. You could even have people over on Sunday night and have a leisurely “Downton-esque” dinner before you watch.
Place of delicious action
The key to realistically adding a little “Downton” to your life is to keep the focus on the dining room, where so much of the delicious action takes place. Don’t take any of this too seriously: No footmen are required and finger bowls are definitely passé. But there is a way to have fun getting dressed up and putting together a well-appointed table.
Your “Downton” theme can best be executed using what is called “tabletop” in interior design parlance: all the china, crystal, chargers, napkins, tablecloths, candles, centerpieces, demitasse cups and place cards that make a dining-room table look like the most delicious eye candy. Many venues offer this merchandise, from Target to furniture purveyors to linen stores.
For a style that borrows from the spare black-and-white and rich brown of “Downton’s” downstairs where the servants hang out (a look that really is the most modern and comfortable in the 21st century), look at the curated collection of CuriousSofa.com.
Elegant vs. classic
Whether channeling an “upstairs” feel or a “downstairs” look, your table will be crisp, clean and proper, and everybody who sits down for dinner will be inspired to try their hardest to be good company.
What effect are you after? If you are pretending to be “toffs,“ you are aiming for an elegant presentation but not a table dripping with gold vermeil, elaborate china, cut crystal wineglasses and ornate silver.
You are striving more for classic style: perhaps a printed invitation sent ahead to your guests, followed by a properly set table with everything in its place, white place cards, of course, and crisp pale linens with a special napkin fold and a monogram. Don’t forget lots of candlelight, and be sure to keep spouses and couples separated to encourage conversation.
Most important: Present several courses. The idea isn’t to let down one’s hair and relax but to make an effort to be one’s best self over a dinner that shows the hosts have made an effort as well.
Sticking to formality
Carol Wallace, author of “To Marry an English Lord,” a book that “Downton” creator Julian Fellowes admits inspired him to make Lady Cora a rich American married to a British peer, said the English of the early 20th century believed in “keeping up standards, even if fashions in food changed. The whole formality of the evening was something you would stick to if you possibly could,” even if bank accounts shrank and new customs like the pre-dinner cocktail started to become popular in the 1920s (Season 3 covers the 1920s, so prepare to see martinis shaken, not stirred, in the drawing room.)
The actual formal dinner tables at upper-class soirées in early 20th-century England were more likely to feature a somewhat pared-down look: a snowy white tablecloth, a couple of show-stopping candelabra holding fresh white candles, bone china with a simple rim of gold, and then a multitude of forks, knives and spoons laid on the table in the correct order, complemented with several stemmed wine glasses or champagne flutes.
The mood was more important than the objects, although high-class Brits were as materialistic as they come. The “tabletop” was there to encourage people to make good conversation and observe the best etiquette, all in a setting that was easy on the eyes.